What is it like to be a private teacher for teenagers?

To be good, in addition to books, you need to be able to talk about love, condoms and angry hormones.

Ten years ago and while I was completely unrelated to maths, my family made a matte move and enrolled me in private lessons- ιδιαίτερα μαθήματα. Writing on this subject, I realized that I had forgotten every detail about the middle-aged professor of algebra, beyond how boring it was, but I remember everything about the professor of geometry.

And how can I not remember them? He was then 25 years old, had just finished Mathematics and on the first day he entered our small class he was wearing a Led Zeppelin T-shirt. As if it wasn’t enough that I realized that we had the same musical tastes, the first thing he said was: “Mathematics is music, guys.”

One attack was enough to fill my 16-year-old eyes with hearts and to gather in his face the wisdom of the whole world.

I honestly don’t know if it’s his fault that he combined the beauty of Jude Law, the humour of Woody Allen and the aura of the type he played in Marlboro’s ad, but as time went on all the girls in our class thought they would cut their hair with him. they will square the circle or solve the Delio problem together, until we understood that Thalis the Milesian to put on powder, would be a failure. At the same time, all the boys wanted him as their friend because he was a figure they admired and they were a little jealous of him, they asked him for advice and his friends played it.

It goes without saying that children in adolescence find it very exciting that a man a little older and much more experienced than them gives them importance. Others want these teachers for friends, others fall in love with them secretly, and others are influenced by them for their future. But how does a professor who puts so much responsibility in his 20s see it, at an age when it’s really hard to realize your position? We spoke with three private teachers who are in their early 20s to tell us how they live.

Gina, 25, is an English teacher

Me: How long have you been taking classes and at what ages?
Gina: About two years, to a girl who is 25 and to a boy who is 18.

Does the issue of age bother you at all? How easy is it to adopt the role of teacher?

It depends on the person and how he manages it. It doesn’t bother me at all, because that’s what I’ve always wanted to do in my life and I feel like it works out for me, of course. What you need to take care of is not to lose your balance. Because one day you may get bored doing a private lesson and the student will definitely get bored, so the easy solution is to stop, say it and get paid normally. This is easy to do, because at least the ages I do make it very easy for them to overwhelm you. They won’t leave you much room to adopt the role of teacher.

How do you do that? Who is easier with?

We generally make fun of ourselves, but you need to know when to impose yourself. It’s weird, but at 18, I’m more successful. I leave him some time at the beginning of the lesson to tell me what he wants, but not much because he is able to sit and drink coffee. You do this by making it clear that if he wants to talk, he must be right in class. Otherwise we can’t do either.

So what do you say? Do they ask you any strange questions?

They also call me to ask where I am, what I do. They ask me what I have done in my life, what I have studied, what I do in general, such things. The 18-year-old looks at me in awe, asks for advice on his chicks and every time he tells me the developments.

The most uncomfortable thing was when a student of mine went from elementary school to high school and when I went in September to start the lesson again I asked her what she did in the summer and she said, “Lady, I did oral sex.” It was too much information.

Katerina, 24 years old, professor of philology

At what ages do you usually take classes?

In which, of course I find. Now I have 5 children, all in high school.

Is it in the phase that hormones hit red?

They are in the phase of discovering relationships; some are completing it for the first time, others are thinking about it. They go through this process, so that doesn’t leave them much to read.

Are they asking you about them? Tips, what to do, what not to do?

Girls more, but I avoid it because it’s a big responsibility and I usually tell them to discuss it with their mother. This age is terribly difficult, because everything in their mind seems very important and serious… Around sex mainly.

The most awkward moment to date?

The most uncomfortable thing was when a student of mine went from elementary school to high school and when I went in September to start the lesson again I asked her what she did in the summer and she said, “Lady, I did oral sex.” It was too much information.

– Is it easy to develop a love affair between a student and a private teacher?

-Easy… At this age, all the messages of the body are perceived erotically. That’s why I avoid any touch to children of the opposite sex. You never know how they will get it.

Marios, 23 years old, professor of physics

Do you take classes for a long time? How old are your students?

I started around the age of 21. Now I do it for two boys, one is in the third grade of high school and I had him from the second grade and with the second I started this year in the second grade of high school. I also did it for a girl who graduated from high school last year, for a year.

Is it difficult to keep your balance when you start taking private lessons at such ages?

Incredibly difficult. Especially with the girl, because almost from the first private lessons I felt that she was seeing me erotically. And that’s not a matter of appearance. Whoever was in my position and was coming so close, I think he would see him erotically. It is a matter of position and mythology of the teacher.

So what did he do and how did you deal with it?

There was a time when I told her a joke and she blushed, started looking down and was ashamed. I understood this mainly from the way she reacted when I told her that she was doing well and from the way she looked at me. He also tried to ask me personal questions, added me to Facebook and clicked like on what I was uploading. Such things, which I might not have understood if I had not compared them with the behaviour of boys.

Have you ever considered responding?

No. Although I was in the post-adolescent stage myself and I remember thinking about it a couple of times. But when I realized that this was playing, I began to be more formal towards her, not to leave room for other discussions and to focus on the lesson. I was mainly afraid that it would fail and I would be charged, because it was just before the pan-Hellenic ones.

You started very young. Were you at all fishing when you started?

Very much. At first I made the mistake of letting them see me as a friend, but I found that this made things more difficult and I started to distance myself, become formal and try to be strict. Although I don’t like it at all.

Aren’t you going to be a teacher or strict?

Both. It’s a profession I wouldn’t do if I didn’t need the money. Maybe growing up I will change my mind.

Was there a time that made you feel very uncomfortable?

Too many. Mainly because I go to other people’s places to do private lessons, so I see and hear things I wouldn’t want. As for the children, the moment I remember feeling more uncomfortable was when one of my students asked me to bring him condoms because he was ashamed to take them himself. There, because we are boys, I became a little like his big brother and I explained some things to him.

What did you say to him;

First of all, how to put on a condom, not to be anxious, to treat the girl well and that the first time will not be as they expect. It’s like physics, you have to practice.

The moment I remember feeling more uncomfortable was when one of my students asked me to bring him condoms because he was ashamed to take them himself.

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